BLOG POST Friday, August 7, 2026

For many parents, a miscarriage isn't simply the loss of a pregnancy. it is the loss of the future they had already begun imagining.

Yet miscarriage often falls into the category of disenfranchised grief: grief that isn't fully recognized, acknowledged, or supported by society. If someone reveals that they had a miscarriage, they might receive well-meaning comments like, "You can always try again," or "At least it happened early.” These comments can unintentionally minimize a very real loss. Since our society often has these perceptions, the would-be parents tend not to talk about the loss and rather keep it to themselves.

While each person may grieve differently, both parents (and family members)deserve space to process what they've experienced without judgment or comparison.

Healing doesn't mean forgetting. It may mean talking with someone who understands, allowing yourself to grieve openly, or finding meaningful ways to honor and memorialize the life that was lost. Even small rituals can help transform an invisible loss into one that is acknowledged with love. No one should have to carry this kind of grief alone. Recognizing it is often the first step toward healing.

BLOG POST Saturday August 1, 2026

One of the biggest misconceptions I see is that grief only happens after someone dies. In reality, grief can show up after a cancer diagnosis, becoming an empty nester, losing a job, getting a divorce, watching a parent develop dementia, or realizing life isn't unfolding the way you imagined. Many people tell themselves, "I shouldn't be this upset” or “It’s not like someone died..."

The thing is, grief isn't measured by whether someone else thinks your loss is significant. It's measured by what that loss meant to you.When we recognize grief for what it is, we can stop judging our emotions and start making space for healing.

As a therapist, I'm continually reminded that some of the most important work isn't helping people "move on.” Instead, it’s helping them carry their losses in a way that allows them to keep living fully. 

BLOG POST Thursday July 30, 2026

One of the hardest parts of grief is that the world often expects it (without saying it out loud) to have an expiration date.
A few weeks after a loss, people stop asking how you're doing. A few months later, they assume you're "back to normal." But grief doesn't follow a calendar. Some days you'll feel like yourself again. Other days, something as simple as a song, a familiar place, or an ordinary Tuesday can bring the loss rushing back. That doesn't mean you're moving backward. It means you're human!
Healing isn't about reaching a point where the loss no longer affects you.

The question is, how do you  make room for all of the things: the grief and joy, the sadness and hope, and the remembering and living. As therapists, we don't help people erase their grief. We help them build a life that's big enough to hold it.